Much has been written about helping children cope with long distance moves. Often, however, the greatest impact can land on the relocating spouse (usually Mother). Even the children recognized this factor in one of the relevant studies. This impact is generally the result of leaving friends behind and facing the prospect of making new ones. If you have young school-age children you are somewhat advantaged socially; meeting other parents through school activities isn't difficult. If not, setting down roots and making new friends can be a challenge. We'd like to share some suggestions which we hope will be helpful.

Thoroughly examine the local newspaper for volunteer opportunities, lectures, special events. Fill up your calendar.

• Try something you've always wanted to do - find classes that interest you and sign up.
• We can't tell you how many people have told us over the years that the Wellesley Newcomers Group offers an immediate and continuous source of friends. Most towns have similar organizations. Don't hesitate.
• Don't wait for the neighbors to come calling - take the initiative and invite neighbors to your home first.
• A rich social life can evolve from your place of worship.
• Get out every day. You'll feel more at home if you know the area.